This week for me was full of ups and downs, having updated my FB status to "Failed in almost everything this sem" to watching 2 movies back to back to celebrate the only quiz I performed moderately well this sem. Many of your inboxes and Fb notifications were filled with something like "Student-Parent Interaction" survey. The week went on worrying about the number of responses for the survey to diversifying my thought with the responses given. Here's the Integration of it.
When Kshitij presented to me the idea of survey, I felt very excited about this. Firstly, it was my first survey and I myself felt as "Karta Karma Kriya " (credit to Kshitij) of it and secondly, it was a question that was troubling me over many days. I am not being able to interact with my mom the way I used to do it in my JEE days or before. Is it same for many of others like me in IIT's or students living in hostels. I used to open up everything to my mom (except girlfreind issues) and used to share my feelings, problems. But, here I feel alienated from them. I feel they don't understand the things going over here, as they call it "generation gap" resurfacing in this context. These reasons amplified the importance of this survey to me.
Infi Publicity machaya, around 680 responses recoreded and Data put before my eyes (Thanks to GOOGLE!). Shock! Just 39% said the interaction with their parents decreasing over time, 51% said there's no change in it and 10% actually said it was increasing. This was contrary to my thinking, my perception was that people feel more distant from their family as years proceed. I was proved wrong here. If this was a simple mistake, see this, 28% feel comfortable to share their feelings with parents when compared to 39% with friends(bf/gf 12% and siblings 10%), that's quite comparable. This is a puncture to my Zeppelin of thought. I reconciled to my initial thinking.
One question asked was "Where you been on a trip with your family?", A very good question which brings many people to think. A trip with your family is a boost for our interactions with them, where we get to know more of each other even after many years of separation. I found many people telling that they are thinking of going on a trip with their family.We asked "Have you ever ditched a quiz to attend a family ceremony?" 21% said yes, they ditched a quiz. There might be many factors behind this like distance from insti, time it takes, importance of it,has there ever been an ocassion for it? blah blah blah. No one can understand everything by a simple survey with this kind of diversity but once again the purpose of question is achieved, there are many people who value them.
I might have showed you the pomp of my stats. But let's get back to the debate of " Is it necessary?". If anyone understands more of us, they are our family, though we might underestimate their view of us. If anyone has a solution to every problem that we face, they are our family. They don't 'Give up' so easily like our friends do. They always add a word of love and caution. Some might argue that parents have demands which are to be met by us, say acads or CPI or job etc and so we gradually move away from them. But from their view it is their right to expect something from their children, which they have been dreaming for many years and it is equally right for you to convince them of your plans, goals, wishes. Instead of alienating yourself from them due to differences and in the end take a step that might seriously go against their wishes. I would say interact with them and convince them gradually.
Thanks to technology and competitive telecom market for the opportunities it provided. Say low call rates, online video chatting etc there are ample of opportunities for us to interact with them. How happy your dad would feel when you say you got AA in a course, a cup in sports, an award in a cult event (may be not be true in all cases! :P), think how happy your mom would be when you say I met him, i went to diner with him, we went there, I learned this,i learned that. Think about these things.
Well, this was an opportunity(survey) for many of us to shout out loud on this issue. So, one of them suggested he would improve interaction with parents ,in his own words " Shift IIT Bombay to Delhi " and someone suggesting "to buy a house in powai" and many people telling the need for "insem break after mid-sems or during festival", last one seems to be a workable idea. I personally felt satisfied by this survey, it improved my confidence to increase my interactions with family, trying to be open with them and also that many people actually thought of this issue for a while(while filling survey atleast). So work on whatever that convinces you but with a sound judgement.
When Kshitij presented to me the idea of survey, I felt very excited about this. Firstly, it was my first survey and I myself felt as "Karta Karma Kriya " (credit to Kshitij) of it and secondly, it was a question that was troubling me over many days. I am not being able to interact with my mom the way I used to do it in my JEE days or before. Is it same for many of others like me in IIT's or students living in hostels. I used to open up everything to my mom (except girlfreind issues) and used to share my feelings, problems. But, here I feel alienated from them. I feel they don't understand the things going over here, as they call it "generation gap" resurfacing in this context. These reasons amplified the importance of this survey to me.
Infi Publicity machaya, around 680 responses recoreded and Data put before my eyes (Thanks to GOOGLE!). Shock! Just 39% said the interaction with their parents decreasing over time, 51% said there's no change in it and 10% actually said it was increasing. This was contrary to my thinking, my perception was that people feel more distant from their family as years proceed. I was proved wrong here. If this was a simple mistake, see this, 28% feel comfortable to share their feelings with parents when compared to 39% with friends(bf/gf 12% and siblings 10%), that's quite comparable. This is a puncture to my Zeppelin of thought. I reconciled to my initial thinking.
One question asked was "Where you been on a trip with your family?", A very good question which brings many people to think. A trip with your family is a boost for our interactions with them, where we get to know more of each other even after many years of separation. I found many people telling that they are thinking of going on a trip with their family.We asked "Have you ever ditched a quiz to attend a family ceremony?" 21% said yes, they ditched a quiz. There might be many factors behind this like distance from insti, time it takes, importance of it,has there ever been an ocassion for it? blah blah blah. No one can understand everything by a simple survey with this kind of diversity but once again the purpose of question is achieved, there are many people who value them.
I might have showed you the pomp of my stats. But let's get back to the debate of " Is it necessary?". If anyone understands more of us, they are our family, though we might underestimate their view of us. If anyone has a solution to every problem that we face, they are our family. They don't 'Give up' so easily like our friends do. They always add a word of love and caution. Some might argue that parents have demands which are to be met by us, say acads or CPI or job etc and so we gradually move away from them. But from their view it is their right to expect something from their children, which they have been dreaming for many years and it is equally right for you to convince them of your plans, goals, wishes. Instead of alienating yourself from them due to differences and in the end take a step that might seriously go against their wishes. I would say interact with them and convince them gradually.
Thanks to technology and competitive telecom market for the opportunities it provided. Say low call rates, online video chatting etc there are ample of opportunities for us to interact with them. How happy your dad would feel when you say you got AA in a course, a cup in sports, an award in a cult event (may be not be true in all cases! :P), think how happy your mom would be when you say I met him, i went to diner with him, we went there, I learned this,i learned that. Think about these things.
Well, this was an opportunity(survey) for many of us to shout out loud on this issue. So, one of them suggested he would improve interaction with parents ,in his own words " Shift IIT Bombay to Delhi " and someone suggesting "to buy a house in powai" and many people telling the need for "insem break after mid-sems or during festival", last one seems to be a workable idea. I personally felt satisfied by this survey, it improved my confidence to increase my interactions with family, trying to be open with them and also that many people actually thought of this issue for a while(while filling survey atleast). So work on whatever that convinces you but with a sound judgement.
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