Nitya, a 27 yr old housewife with 2 kids living in suburbs of Mumbai. If she has anything to be proud of, that would be by being a wife to a self-made husband or being a mother to lovely, intelligent kids. Having eveything placed before her, she never had to decide anything for herself. Her school, college, branch were all decided by her parents. Definetely marriage couldn't be an exception, her life partner was matched consulting matchmakers with kundli. She never felt out of power or rather she is indifferent of being powerless all her life. Is she had any hope of ever 'being free', that soon vaporised as her husband was equally pressy and determined to guide family life. She never complained, nor was their a need to as things were always happening for good.
This is not just story of Nitya, but of many in this world, feeling powerless as if fate is truly written on forehead. But what happened to Nitya later happens only to few unlucky or rather not so unlucky as you would feel later. Her husband met with an accident on express highway and was critical. To her bad luck he soon slipped into coma and all their savings were fed to the hospitals coffers. She was helpless, felt the world cheated her and her children. It took time but she eventually fought back, started working and took great care of her children and ran the family singlehandedly. This transition is also found in many peoples lives. These are times when people realise that they are in the driver seat of their lifes and not in passenger seat they used to assume. "One's destiny is in one's own hand." " I am master of my fate".
Such push or crisis is a fact and at times a necessity for a person to realise one's own potential. It is true that people realise their true powers and capabilities in difficulties. One should also note that even good can inspire one, to push ahead towards realisation. A genuine concern to be a responsible citizen, to give back, to share, to better, to help all guide people to that realisation. But as this article starts with and often stories tell, movies depict it is those that are distinct, different, contrasting situations that often gain attention. Further clarifying definetely we are in drivers seat of our life, but one should also remember that there are co-passengers, there are other vehicles that we come across, about whom everyone should be responsible for. This irony at one hand being master and at other hand being responsible is something that we have to live it, a fact of life.
On a different note but in similar lines I ask "What is it being truly free?" Should I say I am free right now writing this article? If the answer was yes, then am I free if I were writing this in China? Am I free when I have no responsibilities? If the answer is yes, then I have no responsibilities now. No demands from my employers, all expenses paid by parents, no girl friends to soothe, nothing. But I don't feel free. As German philosopher puts it, "To be free is nothing. To become free is heavenly".
'Becoming free' are those moments which Colin Wilson puts it as peak experiences where you feel free, where you feel lucky and all powerful. It is because your thoughts have made you feel such, you become free and feel free. Those euphoric moments are always cherised and loved where you realise that power you have. Then it just the question "How great would it be if I have those peak experiences many times?" or 'maximise Satva' as I prefer to call it. The answer is in the thoughts which are root of every living action and outcome. Swami Vivekananda briefs it wonderfully “We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.” So I say
Push ahead, Push forward, break chains, realise yourself, your power, for the world is yours; you are the world.
Note: This is a note, a summation of my thoughts, showing you various way of realising yourself and telling you of situations we generally are.
